Discovering Yourself After 40

The Real Secret to Self-Growth Later in Life

We tend to talk about growing older as if it’s this ominous monster to be avoided at all costs…or we make witty quips like, “you’re only as old as you feel.” We say that once you reach a certain age, there’s no need to improve anymore. You’re seasoned. 

If you’ll allow me to speak frankly, I think that’s bull.

I personally think the years after 40 are some of the best years for figuring out who the heck you are, what you want out of life, and how to become a better you. You’re older, you’re wiser (or at least more adept at hiding your flaws, HA!), and more confident, too.

So if you’ve found yourself feeling like time is passing you by, and you still haven’t accomplished any major goals? Don’t fret. It’s not too late. Now is the best time to put a plan in motion and work on self-growth and improvement.

Mapping Out Your Life Goals

How will you know where you want to go if you don’t have a personal development plan in place? Now is the best time to map out what you really want for your future. Twenty years ago, it may have been to have a house and plush corner executive office. How have your goals changed since then?

Give it some time and thought. You might be surprised to find out what motivates you now is a lot different than it used to be.

Write down what you want. To retire at 55? Have all your debt paid off by age 60? Buy a vacation home in Hawaii? Look at how far you’ve already come and double those goals.

Learning From Past Mistakes

Everyone has made mistakes in their early years. Whether it’s poor relationship choices, passed up opportunities or slipping into substance abuse, messing up can seem ingrained in our DNA. Remember that your mistakes don’t define you, but they can shape your life. They can even make you stronger if you find the lessons in them.

Becoming a better person in the future means not repeating past mistakes. If you find yourself slipping back into a dangerous routine, reach out for professional help. This can help you get back on track and moving ahead toward your goals.

Using Tools to Be Your Best Self

Being human means being born to make mistakes and sometimes questionable life choices. Empowering our psyche and being better people in today’s society sometimes requires a little help.

According to a study by, people spend upward of 9.9 billion dollars each year on personal development. Podcasts, online courses and weekend retreats are just a small sampling of tools you can use to be proactive about empowering your life.

Being All-Around Responsible

The older we get, the more responsible most of us become. In our early 20s, we might have enjoyed partying or taking risks. Some of us may have had problems paying our bills on time or racked up thousands in credit card debt. It doesn’t take long to understand you can’t move up in the world with rocky credit and bad health. As the years go by, self-growth includes being more fiscally responsible and also paying more attention to overall health.

Self-growth comes naturally to many of us as we age, but we all move at our own pace. There’s no definitive number you should have your life together by, so take your time if you need it. And if you feel you’re falling short, there are plenty of tools and resources to help you get on track.

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