Listening to Rock Thomas’ “How to Change the Way You See Yourself” really connected with me on a deeper level that I wasn’t even aware existed. Not on some superficial level but I mean REALLY made me think “I can do this!” Have you ever stopped to wonder, how did I get to this point in my life? What brought me here? Well, I have, more times than I care to admit. No matter how hard I tried, nothing seemed to change. Thanks to Rock, I see now that I needed to make a change in the way I think in order to figure out what was holding me back.
Rock Thomas’ passionate phrase “I am” made me realize that what I thought about myself was the reality I was living. The truth of this hurt more than I can say, but then it made me understand the place I wanted to be in was not just a dream anymore. Now, I’m not only a convert, but also a witness as I want everybody to learn this truth so they can enjoy this change, too.
Think Better, Live Better
To get to the bottom of Thomas’ passionate message we need to know some of his backstory. He hits on so many good points because he has lived what he is talking about.
All Rock knew was how to work hard in a not-so-ideal environment. The only way he could connect with his dad was by working on chores around the house to get his dad’s attention. His craving for his father’s approval and attention (we can all relate to wanting to fit in), drove him to develop an unbelievable work ethic. Thomas always felt small and unimportant, which made him doubt himself. I know I have felt this way on different occasions in my own life.
Rock was bursting with potential, but he had no idea how to put it to good use. That was, until he met his mentor. His mentor taught Rock how to change his perspective and way of thinking. Rock’s message is loud and clear that the way you speak about yourself becomes the reality of your life. Rock replaced his negative thoughts with positive ones. Over time, this way of thinking evolved into a better outlook on life and much deserved success.
Rock points out that the way he had been thinking had been holding him back his entire life. And I can completely relate. My dreams and strengths made me full of potential, but how could I put it to good use?
Rock’s impactful message makes me really connect with him on so many levels. His main message though is about talking to yourself in a positive way — in a way that will boost your self-image. Rock says that we can use “I am” followed by whatever it is that you desire in your life to create change. “I am beautiful,” “I am successful,” — we fill in our own blank and it’s like writing our lives into being. This alone is enough to change lives. But Rock has some other ideas that you might find interesting, too:
Learn From Your Mistakes
If we never learn from our mistakes, how can we grow as a person? Doing things wrong once, or even twice, can be seen as mistakes but if they turn into a lifetime of bad habits, then perhaps we’re avoiding growth or learning. Old habits do die hard and this was a big one for me. I thought I was learning from my mistakes but I was just recycling different ways to make them. A little self-awareness goes a long way.
Focus on Your Strengths
By knowing what we’re good at and where our strengths lie, we can keep our minds from dropping into that black hole of negative thinking by focusing our efforts on areas that play to our strengths. Rock knew he had a very good work ethic and he used that as the building block for his success.
Have you ever heard the saying “forgiveness sets you free”? It’s very true. When you forgive others for their actions, you take the power away that has been holding you back. What they did can no longer control you or your life. Forgiveness lifts a weight from your shoulders. When we don’t forgive, we’re really giving them permission to continue to inflict those hurts on us. Only we can’t blame them for it anymore, because we’re doing it to ourselves.
Re-evaluate the Company You Keep
Negative people can keep you down in the dumps just like positive people can lift you up and make you want to be better and do better. Bad company can corrupt your good character and overflow into all areas of your life. Your inner circle should want to see you succeed, so choose those you spend time with carefully.
It’s important to remember that your past does not define you. Every day is a new day with the opportunity to become a better version of yourself. By changing the way we think about ourselves, we can change our own lives and even have a positive impact on others. We can be their positive inner circle of support. Focusing on your strengths by changing the way you talk to yourself can point you in the best direction: the ladder to success!